Black eyes, broken elbow, broken wrist or fractured hands and legs – these may well be the images that you conjure up about the term abusive relationship. But in today’s modern relationships these scars are internal and usually hidden. The damage is not physical; its mostly emotional but that doesn’t mean there is no pain. A perfectly looking relationship can also be toxic, you only need to look at the details clearly.
The relationship might look like a dream come true but if you peek into it, you’ll get to know the reality. There are some signs that might seem cute and adoring, but they mean exactly the opposite.
Being extra Jealous
Is your man getting jealous even if you talk to another guy? The act of being jealous is not cute at all. He may appear to be too protective and you may just relish the feeling. Gradually it may become irritating. Even if you look at any random guy he may burst upon you. He may even make you feel guilty for checking out the other guy who might not mean anything to you. This might also leave you isolated as you won’t even be able to hang out with your friends.
Being overly romantic
This is the most charming gesture that he’ll do. Bringing you flowers, lunches, gifting you the most beautiful gifts, taking you to romantic destinations might seem like a dream come true. This is exactly what he is offering you, a world of happiness so that you can get lost in it and trust him blindly. The relationship becomes so beautiful that you begin to think – is it true?
He’ll care extra
Caring is the easiest way to get close to anyone or make anyone fall for him instantly. He will show that he cares for you, keeps in mind all the tiny details and creates such an environment that you think it’s real. In adult terminology, he’ll display PDA a lot. This is the way to gain your trust because it’s easy to control a person who is madly in love with you. You tend to indulge in him more and more, so much that you’ll find yourself asking for his permission to do anything you wish to.
He will keep a regular conversation
The thought of having a lovely conversation with the partner brings a smile on the face & makes you blush. This, in fact, is the best way to get to know your deepest secrets. You start to think that this is true love and he really cares for you. It may well be the other way round. He may well be keeping a track of your daily activities and when things turn sour between you he can use all the proof against you. Such people are usually very alert and cunning and leave no stone unturned to collect evidences to prove you wrong.
He will show signs of commitment
The relationship may sound so perfect and the guy might seem to be so dedicated and deeply involved with you that you might think he is ready to commit. But the truth is it’s you who wants to settle down, who loves this version of a relationship. The bitter truth is that he won’t commit leaving your heartbroken and feelings unreturned.
He’ll play the victim card
It’s very common; a person who knows so much about you and has taken you on his side will be the one to play the victim. He’ll act like he is so much into you by keeping a track of all your activities but in fact, he was just reading you inside out. And when the time comes, he will blame you for everything; thus, leaving you confused and sad.
The traits of an emotionally abused relationship are not hard to see; they are only blurred. If you experience any of the above feelings, it’s time to cross check everything, even your feelings since this may lead one to surrender and the other to dominate. Where there is dominance there is no true love.